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The Library on Patreon is the long version of everything. These are the short versions, the ones you print out, fill in together or leave open on the laptop where she'll see it. You can buy any of them on its own. All seven are free if you join the Library. Each one ends with a little glossary of the nerdy words, and the ones for him include practices if you don't have a partner yet.
Start hereFor both of youThe Locked & Loved Agreement WorkbookThe thing that kept us close wasn't anything fancy. It was writing it down. Yes / no / maybe lists, limits, signals, a weekly check-in and aftercare, filled out together.$27Get it →
For her · by JadeSo He Told YouFor the woman who just heard it and is lying awake with it. What you might be feeling, what to ask him, and what you're allowed to say, including no.$17Get it →
For her · by JadeHolding the KeyAfter the yes. Leading in a way that feels like you, small low-effort ideas, teasing, off days, and not letting it turn into a chore.$19Get it →
For himShowing UpFor the submissive partner. How to be easy to lead, stop steering from the bottom, and make her life lighter instead of heavier.$17Get it →
For both of youThe First 30 DaysOne slow month. Four weeks of small steps for each of you and check-in questions at the end of every week.$15Get it →
For him (her too)After the HighThe drop, the shame after, jealousy, neediness. The stuff nobody posts about, and what actually helps.$15Get it →
For single menFinding HerBecoming the man a good woman wants to lead, and finding her without being creepy about it.$7Get it →Save a bit
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The First Conversation
The four things to say when you finally tell her, the questions she'll probably ask, and what to do in the weeks after. Seven pages, written by both of us. Free, just leave an email and we'll send the odd new post or guide your way. No spam, and you can tell us to stop any time.
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Good to know
- Checkout happens on Patreon. You can buy a single guide once without joining a tier, or join the Library and get all seven free.
- Everything is a PDF. It works on your phone, and the workbook is made to print.
- Nothing in them is explicit. They're about talking, trust and doing this well.
- They're for adults 18 and over, written from our own lives. They are not therapy, counseling or medical advice, and they don't replace any of those. If something's heavier than a guide can handle, the support page has real help.
- Questions about a guide? Email [email protected].